I have never been a big fan of the traditional models for helping teenagers say no to premarital sex (or drugs or drinking or much else on the “no” scale). They usually start with rules, add some more rules and then toss some rules on top. My experience is that I’d rather help young people live INTO something rather than NOT live. [Don’t take this to mean that I’m advocate for teenagers having premarital sex or doing drugs or drinking alcohol, etc, etc, etc.]
I just have always felt that inviting people into a whole life focused on the Kingdom of God not only is more appealing, but is truly better. Just telling kids that sex is bad is not only inadequate, but its a lie. Sex is good. God made sex to be good. Teenagers realize this. What they aren’t so good at is recognizing the boundaries for the best kind of life. Let’s become advocates for not being afraid to talk about this issue of sexuality and advocates for talking about the best kind of life. Let’s NOT become advocates for invoking law over love.
What’s got me on this small soap-box? Mike Metzger has a post here that talks about the failures – apparently quite massive – in the “True Love Waits” approach.